Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.-Miguel Angel Ruiz
From the author: Natacha Williams
I am a true believer that when you know better, you SHOULD do better but, I know it's easier said than done. Today is the day before my twelfth wedding anniversary and my wonderful husband took me to breakfast this morning. As, we stopped to get gas, a couple pulled up right beside us and the young lady was driving. She got out the car and we noticed that she was pregnant and had a little girl in the car. My husband went into the store to pay for gas and came back to pump the gas, then the young lady went into the store to pay for gas, then she came back out and started to pump gas, the man that was in the car just sat there. My husband got in the car and said to me, "baby, that doesn't make any sense that she is pregnant, had to get out the car, pay for the gas and then pump the gas, while he is sitting there doing nothing." I responded to him and said, "well, that's what we do."
I'm saying that to say this; that was me many years ago when I didn't know better. As women, we will do what we have to do to make sure "Ours" is alright. Always wanting to please the men in our lives even when we know that we are not getting the same respect, making them happy even if we are not. Self-esteem is a feeling of self-respect and personal growth, and when we don't respect ourselves then we suffer from low self-esteem. I suffered from low self-esteem most of my life. I felt that I wasn't good enough to have someone love me because my daddy wasn't there for me, he left me, he didn't love me, because if he did he would have been there. The first important relationship that a young girl will ever have in her life is with her father. The pattern of my life begin from the atmosphere that was set by my father not being there and never experiencing that relationship. I looked for love in all the wrong places, longing to fill the empty void in my heart so, if a guy paid attention to me or told me I was pretty, he had me. I made sure that I pleased the guys I was with so, they wouldn't leave me (like daddy did).. I would make them happy even if I wasn't. I went through this cycle and ended up being a teen mom, having 5 babies by 5 different men, then being a single mom and raising these boys on my own. By the time I was 24, I had five kids because, I had no self-respect for myself.
When I begin to understand who I was and my worth, I begin to know better and then I started to do better. I am mother of a 7-year old princess who God has given me and I know now, that she was the reason that I went through what I went through. She looks up to me and watches everything I do, say, wear, how I act, the perfume I wear, the way I do my hair and she always says," I Love you mommy, I want to wear shoes and clothes like you when I grow up, can I wear the same perfume you wear." I have to show her and teach her how a Queen should carry herself and how to be treated. Everything in life happens for a reason and it was all worth it in the end because, she will not go down that road of low self-esteem because my husband and I tells her everyday that she is beautiful, smart, special, a princess and so very important so, when a young man comes to her and tell her these things, it won't be anything new to her...she already knows!
I just want to encourage all of my BEAUTIFUL women that is reading this that you are a QUEEN and should be treated as such. Do not settle for less than what you deserve and if you are in a situation that is not good for you, you don't have self-respect and you feel that you deserve what you got, it's time to re-evaluate your situation. NOW YOU KNOW BETTER, SO DO BETTER!!!!
My Motto: What you say today can help someone make it to tomorrow."-Natacha Williams
2 Timothy 2:15
Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.
From the author: Natacha Williams
I am a true believer that when you know better, you SHOULD do better but, I know it's easier said than done. Today is the day before my twelfth wedding anniversary and my wonderful husband took me to breakfast this morning. As, we stopped to get gas, a couple pulled up right beside us and the young lady was driving. She got out the car and we noticed that she was pregnant and had a little girl in the car. My husband went into the store to pay for gas and came back to pump the gas, then the young lady went into the store to pay for gas, then she came back out and started to pump gas, the man that was in the car just sat there. My husband got in the car and said to me, "baby, that doesn't make any sense that she is pregnant, had to get out the car, pay for the gas and then pump the gas, while he is sitting there doing nothing." I responded to him and said, "well, that's what we do."
I'm saying that to say this; that was me many years ago when I didn't know better. As women, we will do what we have to do to make sure "Ours" is alright. Always wanting to please the men in our lives even when we know that we are not getting the same respect, making them happy even if we are not. Self-esteem is a feeling of self-respect and personal growth, and when we don't respect ourselves then we suffer from low self-esteem. I suffered from low self-esteem most of my life. I felt that I wasn't good enough to have someone love me because my daddy wasn't there for me, he left me, he didn't love me, because if he did he would have been there. The first important relationship that a young girl will ever have in her life is with her father. The pattern of my life begin from the atmosphere that was set by my father not being there and never experiencing that relationship. I looked for love in all the wrong places, longing to fill the empty void in my heart so, if a guy paid attention to me or told me I was pretty, he had me. I made sure that I pleased the guys I was with so, they wouldn't leave me (like daddy did).. I would make them happy even if I wasn't. I went through this cycle and ended up being a teen mom, having 5 babies by 5 different men, then being a single mom and raising these boys on my own. By the time I was 24, I had five kids because, I had no self-respect for myself.
When I begin to understand who I was and my worth, I begin to know better and then I started to do better. I am mother of a 7-year old princess who God has given me and I know now, that she was the reason that I went through what I went through. She looks up to me and watches everything I do, say, wear, how I act, the perfume I wear, the way I do my hair and she always says," I Love you mommy, I want to wear shoes and clothes like you when I grow up, can I wear the same perfume you wear." I have to show her and teach her how a Queen should carry herself and how to be treated. Everything in life happens for a reason and it was all worth it in the end because, she will not go down that road of low self-esteem because my husband and I tells her everyday that she is beautiful, smart, special, a princess and so very important so, when a young man comes to her and tell her these things, it won't be anything new to her...she already knows!
I just want to encourage all of my BEAUTIFUL women that is reading this that you are a QUEEN and should be treated as such. Do not settle for less than what you deserve and if you are in a situation that is not good for you, you don't have self-respect and you feel that you deserve what you got, it's time to re-evaluate your situation. NOW YOU KNOW BETTER, SO DO BETTER!!!!
My Motto: What you say today can help someone make it to tomorrow."-Natacha Williams
2 Timothy 2:15
Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.